SHOWING THAT YOU CAN DO WHATEVER THE F*CK YOU WANT
Even though elopements are growing more and more popular every year, there are still some skeptics around the idea of eloping. I’m here to tell you THEY ARE LIIESSSS MA FRIEND. I have your back, and want to make sure you have all the RIGHT info you need if you’re considering eloping. So, here are 5 of the most popular elopement rumours REVEALED…
Rumour #1 – You can’t involve your family, friends, and loved ones.
Allright, so this obviously isn’t true. BUT I will say if you don’t want to involve anyone else you don’t have to! But we’ll get to that later.
Traditionally, elopements only include you, your person, and the few vendors you think you need. BUT like the world, elopements have evolved greaatttlllyyy, and its now (personally) extremely hard to define an elopement. Meaning- there are some elopements that include a limited amount of family & friends!
There are tons of other ways to involve your loved ones that can’t be with you. For instance, have your closest people write letters to you both for you to read the day of your elopement.
Or split up your elopement, so they can join you for an amazing reception while you two still get to have your intimate day! If you want to check out an elopement that includes some family and friends, check out the one pictured above here!
Include different keepsakes into your elopement from your loved ones. For instance- you can keep the tradition of ‘something borrowed’ !
You can get eloped, and still have your party later! Just because they aren’t involved or get to see the ceremony, doesnt mean they can’t celebrate with you!
Now, even though the definition of elopement has evolved, does NOT mean its restricting in terms of location. If anything, eloping allows you to get married almost anywhere you’d want! Now, even though I tend to love the mountain and nature elopements…
Every story is different, and the beauty of elopements is that it gives you the freedom to show your story the way you believe it should be told! Whether thats on a mountain top, or in your drive way, overlooking a cityscape, or standing in a grassy meadow…
Plus- even if you want to elope in nature you don’t have to be a professional hiker to do it! The outdoors gives you so many options, both easy and hard to get to! The biggest thing to remember is Leave No Trace. I implement these principles in all my weddings, elopements and adventures which you can read more about here.
Rumour #3 – It’s basic & simple.
UHHHHHHHHHH have you SEEN some of the elopements that have been photographed over the years?? You can get AS ELLABORATE AS YOU WANT, or you can literally get married in jean shorts and bare feet and call it a day. BUT that’s the beauty of elopements! You can have such meticulous detail, that would honestly be easier done for an elopement rather than a wedding. You can include any activity you want (again, something that you can’t always do with a bigger wedding) and you can have whatever theme, whatever vibe you want- from hippie vibes in a field to a 5 star luxurious experience in the city.
Honestly just go on Pinterest and search ‘elopement details’. The possibilities are endless…
AND, just because it might be simpler than the average wedding, does NOT mean you skip out on the real stuff – the emotions of the day…
Rumour #4 – If I elope, no one will care or support me
If you actually believe this rumour- I hate to say it but it might be time to reevaluate who’s opinion yous hould be caring about. The people who love you the most and support you the most will SUPPORT YOUR DECISION TO ELOPE. Will it be a little sad? Probably. Can you still involve them in a certain way so they still feel like they’re apart of your day? Absolutely! (see rumour #1). If someone doesn’t support your decision to elope, they are most likely putting their own reasons for those feelings before yours. Which is something NOT to do when planning your elopement or wedding
You don’t owe anyone anything. You didn’t decide to get married to please everyone else. You did it because you love each other, you want to celebrate your story, and you want to see where this next adventure takes you.
Take a look at this western elopement– where the emphasis was celebrating some golden love.
Rumour #5 – It’s selfish.
Now, I won’t lie- this isn’t a rumour. It’s pretty true. But- not in a negative way. Honestly- who made the rule that your marriage is for anyone else???? Hmmm?? I totally get the desire to have everyone there for you. I totaalllyyyy understand the feeling of giving your family and loved ones who have supported you so much, a good time. BUT… your marriage is for no one but you two. That’s it. And, you only get to do it once (that’s the goal anyway) so, why shouldn’t you be selfish and keep the focus on you two?
NOT TO MENTION… regardless if you’re eloping or having a full wedding- YOU SHOULD BE DAMN SELFISH. Its YOUR DAY. DO WHAT THE F*CK YOU WANT.
Now saying all of this, you fully have the freedom of choice to either elope or have a bigger weddin. Hey, you can even have a smaller wedding, or a micro wedding! This just highlights some rumours that I’ve heard around elopements, and that I feel passionate about because honestly- I’m passionate about elopements. And I’m passionate about elopements because I’m passionate about making sure you’re doing what YOU want. So if you want to talk about more questions about elopements, or want to start planning yours (because I am not just your photographer, I’m with you every step of the way) then let’s get talkin’ pal